Find an Outlet for Your Passions

A big part of reaching your dreams is finding a way to incorporate your passions into your day-to-day life. We all feel like there are not enough hours in the day but honestly…

You have the same amount of hours in a day as Beyoncé!

I took this into consideration and went searching for a way to embrace my passions and to find the time. I discovered I AM THAT GIRL: a community, a support system, and a movement inspiring girls to LOVE, EXPRESS, and BE who they are. This nonprofit’s mission was exactly my own. It seemed like the perfect organization for me to get involved with while I am filling in my weak spots for my business venture.  So I took the next step and created a local chapter, I AM THAT GIRL: North Orange County. I have created a safe place for myself and others to be exactly who they want to be without judgment. The best part is that I can use my passion to fuel our meetings and I get to schedule the meetings around my time. I have found an outlet that is flexible and can absolutely fit into my every-day life . Now that I have I AM THAT GIRL, my day-to-day feels like I’m living a DREAM!  

So how do you find your outlet?

1. Fly Solo

Pick up your local newspaper or visit their website and search for events related to your passion. You can also find events in the local magazines, coffee shops and smoothie spots always have those. Once you have found an event, mark your calendar and tell all your friends and family that you’re busy. You need to attend this event ALONE. Going by yourself means distraction free and you can be yourself without worrying what your friends might think. Also, you don’t have to worry about not making any new friends because you already know you have something in common!

2. #Hashtag

Use Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram to search hashtags related to your passions. You’ll find events and people all over who love what you love. Instagram is a huge marketing tool these days so you can find events, books, movies, stores, anything you can imagine. (I discovered IATG on Instagram from a hashtag that Sophia Bush always used). Twitter is also a great place for people to voice their opinion and share news; this can help you find current events happening NOW that you can get involved in! Social media is great for voicing your opinion and sharing your passions with people all over the world, so look for them!

Once you have found this new network of people, so many doors will open. You’ll find new information to devour and new ways to directly get involved. Your day-to-day lifestyle will change once you surround yourself with people who share the same passion.

It’s all about who you know, right?!

Leave a comment below and let me know what hashtags you searched? Maybe I can guess what your passions are!

Change is Okay

As you may have figured out, I had wanted to be a Fashion Design/Costume Designer in the past. I traveled to California to be in the middle of that industry and learn the trade. I had a fabulous year at school, I designed and created clothes, learned about the history of Fashion, and took multiple art classes. I was doing everything in my power to reach that goal, that dream job of mine. During that journey I made WONDERFUL friends. And some of these friends encouraged me to join the Associated Student Government. I had never done anything like that before but because it was a small school and they were going to join as well, I thought ‘why not’!

I had always enjoyed helping others and giving back and this opportunity helped me express that. One of the changes we made at Woodbury University was bringing in ceramic dishes and metal silverware to the cafeteria to eliminate the use of plastic and styrofoam. I felt like we had really made a positive impact for our environment. In addition, we held an event with teachers and board members open to questions directly from the students. We wanted to bridge the gap between the two and give the students a voice to improve the school’s campus and general education program. Being a part of something that was actually making a difference made me realize how important that was to me.

Now for my “Quarter Life Crisis” – my world had changed. I was confused about that dream I had wanted for SO long. It was no longer as clear as it used to be, I wasn't sure if that was the dream I wanted to catch. At this point, I was looking into transferring schools, moving across the country, and changing my major. I wasn't sure what I wanted anymore but knew that the Fashion Industry might not be what I needed. It was an extremely difficult and emotional time. I can remember a day, back at home in Massachusetts when I received the 5^th rejection letter from a transfer school. There was only one more school I needed to hear from and if that was a rejection too, I was going to be stuck going back to Woodbury. I freaked out, cursed in front of my parents, ran outside to sit on our porch swing, and let the rain fall on me. I sat and cried for a long time in the pouring rain. I just did not know what I wanted – there was no clear dream to chase.

Keep your head up and keep moving forward!

The lesson I learned from this was that dreams do change, and it’s okay. You may put a lot of time, money, and effort into a certain goal but if it’s not meant to be, it’s not meant to be! Learn from your actions, be proud of your devotion, and move on to the next. We grow every day and so will our goals – just never stop reaching! One may end and the other might not be there waiting but look for it anyways. Take time to adjust and make yourself happy. Do things for yourself, and while doing that, it’ll be clear what dream you need to catch next.

The First Step Towards Entrepreneurship

Entrepreneurship - the process of starting your own business. It is risky, ballsy, dangerous, and all those other synonyms! But it can also be very rewarding; this is usually the reason why one takes the leap. 

I’m taking the leap because just about every time I talk about negative self-esteem in young girls, I cry. A mentor of mine tells me that those tears are my passion.

As mentioned in a previous post, How I Discovered My Latest Dream, I told you that I want to open my own boutique with a focus on providing young girls with tools to build a positive self-esteem. So as a recent graduate, working as an Administrative Assistant to pay my horrendous bills, what am I supposed to do?! How do I even start the process of opening up a store? 

Find your Weak Spots!

I started to think generally about what it means to open and maintain a boutique. I realized that I absolutely needed to learn about Business – management, accounting, legal forms, etc. I also realized that I needed to learn more about the Fashion part – buying, merchandising, etc. So what’s the best way to learn, go to school!! I mean that’s what I’ve done for the past 23 years, of course that’s the easiest way to learn something new.

And that’s exactly what I did. This is where I can turn my weak spots into strengths. The first class that was offered at a local college, at night after my full-time job was Retail Store Management. How perfect does that sound? Well it wasn't perfect at all. The department worked the system so that this course could actually be about E-Commerce, online shopping to make it simple. That sounds like a really great trade to know; however I do not have any plans to create an online store for my boutique (for now). But I stuck it out at the first class to hear what the teacher had to say and to get an idea of what I might learn. 

What did I learn, EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

I stayed in the course because the teacher had a lot of Industry experience and currently works at True Religion. I learned a lot of great things, including how to start and run and online store. I have firsthand experience with industry platforms such as Shopify, Magento, and Demandware. I also found myself walking out of every class with so much energy and drive. Each class there was something that was said or learned that justified my dream; opening up a boutique is EXACTLY what I am supposed to do. I was meant to be in this class so I can get that boost of energy. Early in the stages of entrepreneurship it's hard, the work can be tedious and slow, waiting around can be discouraging. And that’s what this class has helped me with. Not only do I have new skills but I have even more DRIVE to catch this dream!

I’m sure many of you will try entrepreneurship; my recommendation is to find your weak spots and make them your strengths. And know that there might be another story to be heard with every opportunity you experience.   

I want to hear about your business dreams, what kind of business do you want to own? Comment below. 

Happy New Year!

This being a blog about dream catching you can assume that I’ll tell you to catch a dream in 2015! And that’s exactly what I want you to do!

The start of something new is always a great time to set a goal. So let’s work on those New Year’s Resolutions. (Let's catch a dream!) Sometimes they are easy to come up with and other times you have no idea what to do. You might not even want to think of one because you know you’ll forget about it in a month. But let’s make 2015 a more successful year!

1. Think about the goal that you always say you’ll accomplish that next week, next month, next year, and make THAT 2015’s resolution.  
2. Open up your calendar and mark 1 month reminders and 3 month check-ins. Or find the best way to remind yourself to check in on that resolution.
3. Make a plan for at least one month on how you want to start to tackle this goal. Make it easy for yourself because starting is always the hardest part! 
• For example, if you want to eat healthier, make a weekly grocery list and find some go-to recipes. Make sure to follow the list at the store and do not buy any extras (this will help your finances too). Also, try to shop the outside of the store, that’s usually all of the whole foods and unprocessed items!
4. Find a friend, family member, or mentor you can count on who can help motivate you when you feel discouraged. This person can hold you accountable and in the end, help you catch that dream! 

I hope these tips help you! I look forward to using them myself. My current New Year’s resolution is to calm my road rage. It stresses me out and is wasted energy, I’d much rather deal with it and enjoy or at least tolerate the traffic in SoCal. Essentially this is me reaching for a more peaceful lifestyle, a current dream of mine. Do you have any ideas on how I can make a plan for this resolution? Let me know in a comment below!

Happy Holidays

The next few days will be crazy for most of you! The holidays can be daunting but magical at the same time. You look forward to seeing family and friends, drinking egg nog and eating cookies, and of course giving and receiving gifts. But to enjoy all of those you need to make plans with everyone you know, you have to actually find the time to bake those cookies and go shopping for those gifts, not to mention figure out what to even buy! I think stress is listed next to Holiday in the dictionary, tell me if I’m wrong (hehe).

Well to prepare myself I explored the internet for some answers and survival tips! I came across a great article on the I AM THAT GIRL Blog called Give Back to YOU This Holiday Season. It talks about the stress of putting yourself first during this time. You’re stretched thin with plans and “we are taught to be good friends and to please others from a young age. When the holidays approach, it can be so easy to say yes, when you really should say no. There are unsaid expectations…”. This article gives you plenty of tips to balance out your time and to actually enjoy the holidays.

But I want to give you another tip: Try Something New!

Now that you know how to say “no” and are prioritizing better, you can find that moment to catch your dream! Pick one that is easier to catch of course, you only have a short window of time. Try that new food you've been wondering about. Read that book that’s been staring at you from the shelf. Talk to that cutie on the other side of the bar! Do something new and exciting – the holidays ARE magical so don’t waste it. You can feel it in the air and hear it in the wind, you might even taste it in the water (I taste it in the wine!). Use this magic to encourage yourself to experiment and explore. It's easier than you think, especially when you can include those family members and friends in the experience, kill to birds with one stone! 

Let me know what dream you caught this Holiday season in a comment below! Something new for you might be new to somebody else too, inspire us!