Remember when I told you that change is okay? Well I had to
remind myself of this recently. A few months back I had created a specific plan
with check-points and goals to reach my dream of owning my own clothing store. At
the end of February, I was at a turning point. I had planned to make a career
change to allow myself more time for school and to further educate myself, through
work, on the retail business.
After reviewing my budget with a job offer in consideration,
I realized that I needed to change my plan. Switching roles was not going to support
me financially like I had previously thought. So I had to come up with a new
plan. I am no longer planning to make this career change so that I can save
enough money to start up my business sooner than anticipated!
However, this change did not come easy. I spent two days as
an emotional wreck. I wrote about 5 different Pros and Cons lists as I
flip-flopped with which decision to go with. I had conversations with family members
and friends in hopes that their opinions could help me navigate the thoughts in
my head. I was realizing that neither decision felt right but I couldn’t find
option 3! So what I did was modify my options. I stripped them of any and all
emotions and focused on the big picture.
It doesn't matter how
you get there, as long as you get there!
I may not be 100% happy with my decision, but I am 100%
about changing my plan. I know that this will be more beneficial for me and my
business.
My advice for you:
Strip the decisions of any
emotions. When you make your Pros and Cons list look at the items and
figure out if your feelings are driving it. And I mean all emotions, good or
bad. Look at the reality. This was the
hardest part for me!
Modify the options. Try to adjust them so that they fit your big
picture plan as best they can. My job offer did not provide enough compensation
so all I did was ask if it was negotiable. Come to find out it was, they
offered me more and they even offered me a different position that provided even
more compensation than the second offer!
Talk it out. Present your decision to family and friends who can
look at it from a different angle. They can provide their opinion and help you
understand more Pros and Cons for your options. You’ll find incredible support
by doing this. But remember, the decision is yours and yours alone. Do not let
anyone else make it for you!
I know I’m going to have many more of these “forks-in
the-roads” so I’m going to need to hear from you! How do you make extremely
hard decisions? Comment below.
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